Michelle Williams and Jenny Slate in Dying for Sex

Dying for Sex review, lots of sex but only one death

Dying for Sex stars Michelle Williams as Molly, a woman dying of cancer. Her response to the news that she is terminal is to finally throw off every sexual restraint and try to find sexual satisfaction at long last with someone – anyone – who can give her an orgasm.

Dying for Sex is based on a true story. Michelle Williams as Molly and Jenny Slate as her best friend Nikki both shine in this surprising and funny drama.

When the story begins, Molly is married to Steve (Jay Duplass). Since her bout with breast cancer three years ago, he hasn’t touched her. Even when he did, she never had an orgasm. Now the cancer is back worse than ever.

Jenny Slate in Dying for Sex
The best friend

Molly dumps Steve. Her best friend Nikki takes over helping with appointments and other medical needs. Nikki is an actress who gives up a role in a Shakespeare play on Broadway to care for Molly. She’s not a good caretaker, but she learns.

There’s lots of sex in this series. Frank language, nudity, the works. The intimacy coordinator on this set (Claire Warden) had a big job with all the touching and exposure the actors had to deal with.

Under that patina of sex, something else was going on. Molly was struggling with a childhood trauma that still interfered with her ability to enjoy sex, or even love another human. (Not counting Nikki, who she loves without reservation and who returns that love in kind.)

Molly’s discovery of kinky sex is actually a way to gain control, be on top, dominate. She moves into a strange new world with an array of partners who want to be controlled and berated in various ways. Being in control makes her feel good at last. One of her many new sex partners lives in the adjoining apartment. He is Neighbor Guy (Rob Delaney). Neighbor Guy is the most important of Molly’s new sex toys because he becomes more than just a toy.

Michelle Williams and Sissy Spacek in Dying for Sex
Lots of forgiving to do before you die

There are other important characters. There’s Nikki’s boyfriend Noah (Kelvin Yu). There’s Molly’s estranged mom Gail (Sissy Spacek) who doesn’t show up until near the end. That relationship ties back to the childhood trauma Molly is processing.

Michelle Williams in Dying for Sex
Dying has stages? Who knew?

Molly’s oncologist is Dr. Pankowitz (David Rasche). Her palliative care nurse is Sonya (Esco Jouley). Esco Jouley was a new face to me, a brilliant nonbinary actor that I can’t wait to see in other things. Molly’s very enthusiastic death doula (Paula Pell) describes the dying process to her in vivid detail.

Michelle Williams was absolutely brilliant in this. She’s been nominated for 5 Oscars already but hasn’t yet taken home the statue. Maybe this time will be her turn. Jenny Slate was also wonderful.

The majority of the episodes were directed by Shannon Murphy. It was an all women writers’ room on this series created by Elizabeth Meriwether and Kim Rosenstock. You will find it streaming on Hulu with all episodes available.

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6 responses to “Dying for Sex review, lots of sex but only one death”

  1. Anne Avatar
    Anne

    Hi! I just started watching the show but couldn’t get past the second episode. Lately, there have been so many shows focusing on sexual awakenings, and while I don’t necessarily mind that theme, it’s starting to feel a bit overdone. The emphasis on the female body, especially through the lens of the male gaze, feels tired.

    Unfortunately, I’ve never been a fan of Jenny Slate, and I think that made it harder for me to stay invested. Even Michelle Williams’ performance didn’t really stand out to me—it all felt pretty predictable.

    And then there’s the trauma aspect: it feels like it was pieced together by some algorithm trying to hit every trending topic. I don’t mean to sound rude, but honestly… blech. Why do they keep trying to sell us something so obviously fabricated as if it’s deep and meaningful?

    1. Virginia DeBolt Avatar

      I’m glad to hear you stop watching when something isn’t right for you. I do that too.

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  3. Anne Avatar
    Anne

    I had to come back to this post to admit I was wrong! Someone convinced me to keep watching the show, and it took until episode 4, but then I really started to love it and even forgot about Jenny Slate. The show evolved beautifully! It became more of a journey of self-discovery than just relying on sex for the audience’s visual pleasure. It offered a heartfelt portrayal of the relationship with the mother and also with the neighbor. The show is about friendship and enduring a very difficult loss. I’ve noticed sometimes how a show can feel unsure at first, as if it’s struggling to find its path and daring to explore its themes, but then it emerges brilliantly. I feel this is exactly what happened here.

    1. Virginia DeBolt Avatar

      Ahh, how wonderful. Your story illustrates the value of an open mind. I’m glad you came back to comment again!

  4. […] Dying for Sex stars Michelle Williams as Molly, a woman dying of cancer. Her response to the news that she is terminal is to finally throw off every sexual restraint and try to find sexual satisfaction at long last with someone – anyone – who can give her an orgasm. […]

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